Four beautiful ladies gave my last blog post some great comments and opened a few questions that I'll ask individually over the course of the week (thank you, sistas!). This is not a single-gender question: I EXPECT MY BROTHERS TO SHOW THEIR STRENGTH ON THIS ONE! The question of the day is my subject line: is the consummate Black Man that women often write powerful poetry and pen silky-smooth erotica to describe/glorify/worship a REAL MAN? Does EVERY sister want the Corporate Ruler with strong street swagger? Are blue-collar men some step DOWN to our women?
Please remember that we're here in POSITIVITY as well as in TRUTH. My blog will never be a place to demean or libel anyone. We all need an oasis in the desert.
Ladies and gents, what say ye?
10 comments:
I'm in love with an entreprenuer! Regardless of the collar "color" a brother should be able to handle his b'dness and CARRY himself from Corporate SETTINGS to STREET, if need be. If I have corporate clientele or position I want to be able to bring my man to functions. Then if I visit my hood family I want my man comfy there, too. Plus, I need a brother who's comfy outside the urban setting cuz i LOVE the country & great outdoors - that gets tricky sometimes;-). I don't know if i'd consider brothers who fit that criteria the "holy grail" - because that's still being sought after, right? Howevah, I do know that my ideal brother exists & know SEVERAL sistahs who enjoy wonderful relationships with their ideal men (not EVERY sistah, but enough that kept my hopes high;-).
P.S. who's that a photo of? doesn't look like your thighs. lol!
I can handle the woods as long as you're not putting in me in the setting of a bad horror flick! I love what you're saying here...and the shadow picture is just a random jawn! There you go--bringin' up a bruh's legs again! LOL!
I'm the first to admit...I have VERY high standards when it comes to men.
My poor, darling, husband had to jump through so many hoops before we got married.
I think it's important, though, to be true to yourself. There is no one perfect man--only a man that is perfect for you.
GG, did you have your man running around the city for the perfect slice of cheesecake at 3am? What did he have to do and how long did it take for you to decide that he was WORTHY? (trumpets sound in the air as GG stands...with one foot on her hubby's neck...LOL)
The holy grail??? Sometimes it seems that way, but i agree with GG, no perfect man, "just one perfect for you"...haven't found him yet, nor has he found me...at least i don't think, he could be here now and i dont' recognize (hahhahaha)...Cap your description doesn't fall far from mine, need a flexible dude, corp, street, country, sleek, funny, serious, like to travel, like adventure and downtime and most importantly as me and GG converse about often, HE has to Love, love him some Miz....ummm but not to the point of obsession. Holla if you are out there.
Well, Ced, that story is too long to post here...let's just say that written tests were involved.
A relationship is a tricky thing. In any successful relationship, both partners have to accept the fact that people grow and change--even within the confines of a committment. No one is going to be exactly the same person that they were on their wedding day, you know?
Perfect for Me is EXACTLY what I/we all need! I've always felt that I was searching for that "click" - like the safe-crackers in movies who listen closely for that elusive "click" that lets them know they can open the safe which holds amazing treasures.
I felt the "click" & we've just begun to open the door to each other's treasures!
Funny that u said that about the 'tests', GG. Just last night, my new found love said that when he first saw me he knew I was a woman/Queen (his words) that a man would have to work for, and it would be so worth it!
(I call him "new found" - because like Miz & many of us have said, we've all been here prepping for our ideal mate & now, we've finally found each other)
Ladies, thanks for teaching me the thoughts of real women. Cap, let me know when I need to meet Mr. Ideal (You know your team has to give him the mean-mug look at least once to show him what can happen IF...but we don't need to remind him, do we?) Mizrepresent, you did to the fullest, and I thank you. Girly Girl, thanks for the love on THAT OTHER SITE aka TOO MANY DAMN CHILDREN PLAY ONLINE--and what kind of written tests did you give your poor man? That brother probably has some deep-seated test anxiety thanks to you! LOL!
Now, where are my BROTHERS? This is for them, too!
I have to say I have not dated a corporate men. I can say I love a versatile man. A man who can handle his business in a place of business or on the streets and be humble. I love men who are friendly and can hold conversations with almost anyone.
I have no problem dating a blue, white or no collar man. Damn! I am just realizing I haven't date corporate yet. LOL. SMH.
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